I did this thing that I do sometimes, where I stop reacting to people as they actually are, and I spend energy reacting to the person that I’ve built them to be in my head.
I really need to not do this. It’s hard though, because I don’t always notice that it’s happening.
It’s extremely disheartening on my end, but also, it’s incredibly, amazingly, unflinchingly unfair to the other person.
I am left with all of this disappointment and frustration, and I’m usually inclined to take it out on the person, which is something I am distinctly not allowed to do.
How fucking awful is it to punish someone for not responding as I wanted or expected them to? It’s absolutely unacceptable.
This is something that I’m really trying to combat as I’ve starting maintaining long-distance relationships because of my travels.
People are entitled to react however they want to.
I don’t get to be upset because people don’t follow my own pre-set, idealistic, views of the future.
Deep breath. People are people, they don’t live in my head.
That is, actually what I like about people. They wouldn’t be nearly as awesome if they did what I thought they were going to.