Yesterday I went to a wedding. It was really beautiful.
Two things in particular really stood out to me: the vows began with the phrase “I take you to be my best friend”.
Every couple that I know who have been married for decades and are still *happy*, they all say the same thing. “I married my best friend.”
To hear that acknowledged in a wedding, is, I think, really important.
The other thing that I liked very much is doing away with the phrase “you may now kiss the bride.” It was replaced with “you may now share your first kiss.”
Because brides are not objects to be given and kissed. Brides are women, who will hopefully be kissing back.
Women are not passive observers of their own lives, they are participants. Also, the only person who can ever give permission about being kissed is, shockingly, the person being kissed.
So I think this is pretty much one of the best changes I’ve seen recently.
It’s the little things, but they matter.